Feeling of unfair treatment, hostile behaviour of males (father, husband, brother or even son in few cases), media influence, clubbed with some expectation of shelter other than home, are trigger points for girls/women to leave their families and homes. Young girls may get this feeling of support from their lovers. And women may seek for some welfare trust. We do not have many shelters for these ‘runaway girls’. This is because society does not like it.
Males too have forgotten primary reason about getting authority, and this authority is often misused. They become dictators, and this dictation causes immense frustration on the part of modern women. These ladies daily observe other women on media, well-dressed and good-looking, towards whom men get attracted. This grass which is immensely greener at other side frustrates them even more. In such societies exists two types of males. One, even more. In such societies exists two types of males. One, who dictate and snub them from being modern, so to avoid any possible external attraction. Second, try to expose their women to others as symbol of their success. Both extremes irritate women, why? Because they are human too, and wish to have freedom. But these puzzled women, irritated from double standard male dominant society, either live unhappy life or decide to revolt. These revolting women are also seen as heroic figure by many, and also serve as motivation for others to run away.
There exists wide range of reasons explained by runaway girls. But two most strong variables are, 1. Stressed life at home, 2. Willingness to get married with their choice. Unlike those who run to get married, women running away from their family have no one to support. This is why, it is less likely for women to runaway due to family pressure only. Usually it is a mix: some promise of external support, topped by friction in family results in such kind of decision. Runaway girls plan and seek for immediate support to avoid any harm from jungle of humans. This support can be some welfare trust or some male, with whom they wish to be wedded.
Young girls, usually feel strongly convinced from ‘self-defined freedom’. And they get easily influenced from media too. Media, in order to attain higher viewership often dramatize and overproject. This may be understood by aged audience. For youngsters, it becomes flashy dream. When these young girls try to imitate their learning from media, which very quickly becomes a social trend, they get strictly snubbed by controlling group. This causes them to be further flared up.
Girls need to understand our society, value relations over subjective outcome. And these social expectations drive our lives. Going away from norm is not bad but for total revolt one has to pay a heavy price. Young boys also get influenced from media, and may make hollow promises. After getting uncovered from shelter of family, comes huge sense of insecurity. It might be safe passage that you daily take, but you will find yourself extremely challenged.
Please understand that everyone is not like lucky ‘Rapunzel’ in fairy tale. After running away starts the real story. These runaway girls, in pursuit of their self-defined freedom, forget many aspects. First of all, they live in relationship-oriented society which cannot be like individualistic societies or like west. Once they run away, they realize that finances turn low before they think. If their lover relinquish at the eleventh hour, it is near to impossible for them to get married or live in a respectable family. Not only they but their siblings too will be challenged at time of getting married. Society will tag their family as â€œdisloyalâ€. Their family suffers from trauma, and few members may think of committing suicide. Last but definitely not least is extreme, when even modern and educated male members of family may attempt to kill their own daughter/sister. This hostility of men, women might fail to comprehend, before they run away.
So far we have been discussing the social side; living in the same society, professional life may face challenges too. No matter how many times organizations advertise ‘Equal Opportunity Employer’ but hiring manager definitely is part of relationship-oriented society. Organizations consider such girls as disloyal and doubt their un-biased working, though there exist few exceptions. At worst, such women are considered as public property: every wicked man attempts to abuse them. Few reports say that most runaway girls in Iran get raped within 24 hours of their departure. In our society too, majority of runaway girls end up spending their whole life imprisoned in some orphan home, trust or brothel.
Girls considering to ‘Runaway’ from their families shall consider these repercussions, which are often overlooked in overoverwhelming emotions. Young boys too make unrealistic commitments in blends of emotions and latter fail to support girls who runaway for them. Running away price is often higher than one can comprehend. Though complete blame can never be given to girls, families shall not levy un-due strictness on girls. We all shall understand that limits are defined by society, we may or may not like these limits, but we can only raise our voice when we attain right position. When we are in some position of strength; being young and weak, running away is not an option. It will only bring bad name to ‘runaway’, family and destruction to her life.
Unless it gets to threat for your life; or too serious, that you agree to pay price of being ‘Runaway’. Only then take such serious decision. Otherwise families shall understand and live collaboratively.